When You’re Stressed the F**k Out… Part II

Back in August, I wrote a brief post about being… well let this gif express how I was feeling:

Well things got worse after that and I was feeling… well the following gifs capture how I felt very well:

 

You get the idea. Yes, once again I was stressed the f**k out and I mean all the f**king way out. So much so that I got physically ill! This all happened in October and part of November.  Things were just going haywire, I was frustrated and apprehensive on the thing I’ve been working on, work was cutting my hours, family stuff, finances, and things going on in K-pop community due to cyberbullying.

It was a lot and it wasn’t a fun time for me. I don’t think I’ve ever been that stressed before in my life. Thankfully, I was able deal with the stress in a healthy way and while I’m not extremely stressed as I had been during this time period I’m still a little stressed and anxious.

So I’m back with seven more tips to help alleviate your stress and anxiety:

From WebMD:

Get enough sleep

Six to eight hours is recommended. Our bodies and minds need time to recover from stressful events.

Don’t use alcohol, drugs, or compulsive behaviors to reduce stress.

These things can stress your body even more. You might end up like Sylvester here if you:

Breathe deeply:

“Take a 5-minute break and focus on your breathing. Sit up straight, eyes closed, with a hand on your belly. Slowly inhale through your nose, feeling the breath start in your abdomen and work its way to the top of your head. Reverse the process as you exhale through your mouth.”

From VeryWellMind.com:

Create Artwork

Reconnect with your creative side and draw, paint, or color in a coloring book as all of these can be great stress relievers.

Give yourself a regular pep talk

Instead of speaking negatively about yourself, speak positively.  This can help you develop a healthier outlook on life and can help manage your emotions and take positive action.

Get social support

Having supportive people in your life is essential to managing stress. Reach out to someone in your existing social networks be it a family member, friend, etc. If you don’t have emotional support or friendship you may need to expand your network by joining an organization, attending a support group, or getting professional help.

That being said…

If there are things or people adding to your stress, CUT THEM OUT! 

This is one of the best ways to reduce your stress and give you more peace. Sometimes shitty people come into our lives and we need to cut them off.  We also need to get rid of bad habits and make way for better ones that can help us feel better.

I hope these tips can help you alleviate your stress and anxiety. With the new decade approaching we’re going to need all the help we can get. I wish you love, peace, and health in 2020. Remember your existence is important and I’ll see you soon.

 

 

When You’re Stressed the F**k Out…

Hey everyone hope you’re doing well. Let me ask you something:

Have you ever felt like this?

Or this?

Or maybe even this?

Have you felt the urge to do this:

If so then you’re not alone.  Welcome to the stressed out club. I’ve been stressed out for a few weeks-no scratch that-months now. My current state of oblivion is due to a combination of things: life, family, work, etc… Stress is one of those unfortunate things about life and there are many ways to deal with it-both positive and negative and we don’t want the latter.

So here are five positive ways to relieve stress and anxiety.

Exercise

This is a good way to relieve mental stress.  If you exercise regularly you’ll lower your stress hormones, improve your sleep quality and gain more confidence.

Aromatherapy

Light a scented candle  or Use essential oils. According to Healthline.com, these are some of the most common scents:

  • Lavender
  • Rose
  • Vetiver
  • Bergamot
  • Roman chamomile
  • Neroli
  • Frankincense
  • Sandalwood
  • Ylang ylang
  • Orange or orange blossom
  • Geranium
Write

Jot your thoughts down in a journal. Whether it’s a notebook from Dollar Tree or a kawaii stationary journal, writing can help relieve stress.  Focus on what you’re grateful for or write about what’s troubling you.

Mindfulness

This is an excellent way of combating anxiety-inducing effects of negative thinking. Mindfulness is a series of practices that keep you anchored to the present moment.  Ways to practice mindfulness include yoga and meditation. Here’s a brief list of resources:

Free Audio Resources for Mindfulness Meditation via Mindful magazine

Mindfulness Resources [pdf] via Stanford

Free Resources via The Free Mindfulness Project 

Listen to Relaxing Music

Music is another method to help relieve stress as it can have a very relaxing effect on the body. Slow paced instrumental music is highly recommended.  Here’s a few playlists via Spotify:

Best Relaxation Music

Calming Music

The Most Relaxing Playlist in the World

So how to do you feel? Still stressed? No matter here’s a few more resources for you:

16 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress and Anxiety via Healthline.com

Stress and How to Lower It via Center For Young Women’s Health

1o1 Things To Do When You’re Stressed via Care.com

18 Ways to Calm Down When You’re Stressed – Entrepreneur

I hope this helps.  Have a wonderful weekend and please remember your existence is important. I’ll see you soon..

Last Chance To Celebrate Indie-Pendence With This Giveaway and Grab Yourself A Bestseller!

A massive giveaway that started last month will end today and there’s a Bestseller you definitely want to get your hands on.

Celebrate Indie Authors by downloading your free ebook copies of their work!

 

Today, the free giveaway celebrating Indie authors on Prolific Works featuring my novellas will end!

 

Titled Indie-Pendence: Indie Authors – All Genres, this giveaway features works by authors who are self-published or not signed to a publisher AKA traditionally published. The giveaway starts tomorrow Jun 15th and runs until today July 15th.

Score your copies of my works by clicking here.

But wait there’s more! Grab yourself a copy of this Bestseller!

Bestseller: Publishing Can Be Murder by Carey Lewis

What happens when an author writes a book about his suicide but doesn’t follow through? A bestseller is born.

Gordon Nolan is the best author you’ve never heard of. At least that’s what puts him to sleep at night. That and a quart of Wild Turkey. To prove his wife still loves him, he writes a book detailing the last year of his life, ending in his suicide. Instead of mourning her loss, she celebrates her gain – a book with bestseller potential.

Victor Vaughn is the agent who was on top of the literary world but has fallen on hard times. He needs a bestselling book to keep his career alive. When unknown Gordon’s book falls in his lap, he sees a meteoric rise back to the top. Only one thing’s missing: a dead author.

With the book making waves and millions to be had, Gordon desperately tries to claim his accolades, but quickly learns he’s worth more dead than alive. His wife and agent desperately seek Gordon, or a body to pass as him, to push through the sale. When a mysterious corpse tumbles over Niagara Falls, it could mean the solution for all involved.

Bestseller is a rollercoaster thrill-ride that’ll have you laughing while on the edge of your seat, itching to know how it ends.

Get your copy here!

Review It!

When you’ve finished reading any of the books you’ve downloaded, please remember to leave a review on Amazon, Goodreads, or Barnes and Noble.  The number of reviews a book receives affects its visibility on these sites, so if you want to support authors please leave a review! We all appreciate it.

Until next time!

Let’s Talk Shall We?

Hey everyone, something’s been on my mind for a bit so…

Yesterday a post about an upcoming giveaway posted and I need to share an update on it.

I’ve never had any problems in regard to being a part of a group giveaway on Prolific Works until the most recent one.

I was sent an email on June 28th notifying me that my books had been removed from the A Different World: Protagonists of Color giveaway. Confused I asked the organizer in the comments section on the Group Giveaway details page.  I was told that I hadn’t promoted which wasn’t true because I had and I shared this information on the comments page. The response I received was a passive aggressive one that was directed to everyone which basically stated that if one didn’t promote during the promotion they would be permanently banned from all upcoming giveaways. This past week the organizer mentioned this again and another person commented that they had let time slip away from them and they would promote to which the organizer stated something along the lines that “The proof is in the pudding.” in regards to promoting.

Now these comments have been erased from the comment section by the organizer and I didn’t think to screenshot them at the time. However,  I do have screenshots of my promotion activities (I also have one last promo scheduled later today):

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I’m not sure why the organizer acted this way, perhaps it was in response to the low numbers of downloads for each book in the giveaway. Also this what the organizer of each giveaway can see for the promotions that they do:

But even with this how can they tell who promoted and haven’t?

I don’t want to cause any trouble but I’m upset that I’ve been accused of not promoting when I have been.  I don’t have a huge following and I do my best promoting on here, Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, and my mailchimp.  So while I highly disagree with the organizer’s actions and my books have been removed from the giveaway, I want to encourage you to download the ebooks featured in the giveaway.

Please remember to leave a review on Amazon, Goodreads, or Barnes and Noble once you’re finished reading.  The number of reviews a book receives affects its visibility on these sites, so if you want to support authors please leave a review! They appreciate it.

It’ll be a while before I do giveaways again. I don’t appreciate anyone falsely accusing me when I have proof that I’ve promoted.  Thank you for downloading my books and giving them reviews.

Until next time!

 

Get Your Indie-Pendence On With This Giveaway and Grab Yourself A Bestseller!

A massive giveaway is starting and there’s a Bestseller you definitely want to get your hands on.

Celebrate Indie Authors by downloading your free ebook copies of their work!

This month, my novellas and novel will be part of a free giveaway celebrating Indie authors on Prolific Works!

Titled Indie-Pendence: Indie Authors – All Genres, this giveaway features works by authors who are self-published or not signed to a publisher AKA traditionally published. The giveaway starts tomorrow Jun 15th and runs until July 15th.

Score your copies of my works by clicking here.

But wait there’s more! Grab yourself a copy of this Bestseller!

Bestseller: Publishing Can Be Murder by Carey Lewis

What happens when an author writes a book about his suicide but doesn’t follow through? A bestseller is born.

Gordon Nolan is the best author you’ve never heard of. At least that’s what puts him to sleep at night. That and a quart of Wild Turkey. To prove his wife still loves him, he writes a book detailing the last year of his life, ending in his suicide. Instead of mourning her loss, she celebrates her gain – a book with bestseller potential.

Victor Vaughn is the agent who was on top of the literary world but has fallen on hard times. He needs a bestselling book to keep his career alive. When unknown Gordon’s book falls in his lap, he sees a meteoric rise back to the top. Only one thing’s missing: a dead author.

With the book making waves and millions to be had, Gordon desperately tries to claim his accolades, but quickly learns he’s worth more dead than alive. His wife and agent desperately seek Gordon, or a body to pass as him, to push through the sale. When a mysterious corpse tumbles over Niagara Falls, it could mean the solution for all involved.

Bestseller is a rollercoaster thrill-ride that’ll have you laughing while on the edge of your seat, itching to know how it ends.

Get your copy here!

Review It!

When you’ve finished reading any of the books you’ve downloaded, please remember to leave a review on Amazon, Goodreads, or Barnes and Noble.  The number of reviews a book receives affects its visibility on these sites, so if you want to support authors please leave a review! We all appreciate it.

Until next time!

Updated Orniainthi Book Cover

It’s been two years since I published my mermaid fantasy novella Orniainthi, and after giving it some thought and working on a few ideas, the book has an updated cover!

Behold:

And with this new lewk, comes an updated synopsis:

Eight years ago, an incident during a group dive resigns noted oceanographer Dr. Viola E. Foy to a desk job.  But an urgent call forces Dr. Foy to return to the ocean. She finds herself partnering with Dr. Devin Strucker-an estranged colleague who’s now the VP of the Future Underwater Colonization Agency (FUCA)-for an exciting sea expedition.

But Dr. Foy’s betrayed and forced to conduct a dangerous dive into the mysterious Black Hole of Andros Island.  An accident occurs that alters Dr. Foy’s destiny and makes her a target for FUCA and the US Navy. And more trouble arrives in the form of FUCA’s mysterious CEO Wendell Normand Galloway who’s emerged from years of seclusion with plans that threaten to doom the world to a watery grave.

Can Dr. Foy harness her new abilities, avoid capture and save the world before it’s too late?

You can purchase either a print or ebook copy (why not both?) from the following sites: AmazonBarnes and Noble, and Smashwords.  Add to your Goodreads Shelf.

Remember: Please give my book a review! I can not stress how important reviews are for us indie authors.

Thanks again!

-T.C.

Romwe Cat Themed Haul Review

While I’ve done some hauls in the past this is the first that I’m reviewing and sharing with you. It’s also the first time that I’ve purchased items (with my own money of course I’m no influential YouTuber or Instagrammer) from Romwe.

What is Romwe?

It’s an online fashion store that features clothing,  accessories, etc. for cheap prices. Per their About Us page (emphasis mine):

ROMWE has been a global online stop for fast fashion since 2010. Our aim is to always provide high value trendy pieces at incredible prices while ensuring high quality service to our customers. We design, source, market and sell clothing, accessories and home & living products. We target our items to young fashionable consumers through localized mobile and web platforms. We deliver from our warehouses in the US, Europe and China to nearly every country in the world.

I’ve heard about Romwe for a while now and while I was skeptical and leery about the site, I was also curious. So I did my due diligence and researched. I viewed Romwe Hauls on YouTube, and read a couple of articles about the site. There were many valid complaints ranging from the store selling fast fashion, inaccurate sizing, shipping taking way longer than expected, etc. While I wasn’t fully sold on the site, I came to the conclusion that I still wanted to make a purchase… and that’s what I did.

A few things to note: 

  • I am aware that site sells fast fashion clothing and I’m aware of the issues surrounding that. If you want to learn more about fast fashion here are a few links to help you out:

Fast Fashion (via Wikipedia.org)

What is Fast Fashion? (via goodonyou.eco)

  • Because this was my first time using the site, I didn’t want to spend a lot of money (I normally don’t to begin with since my finances are limited anyway).  I only spent a total of $63.45. You can see the Order Summary below:
  • Since I knew shipping takes forever, I ordered everything exactly a month ahead (March 7th) of my birthday (April 7th). Tracking information shows that my packages (2) were coming via USPS. And my shipping was free-US shipping is free with orders over $49.00. Otherwise $4.99 with 6-8 business days.
  • I wanted to have a little fun and decided to have a theme for this haul. So I typed in Cats in the search button and bought some of the products featured in the search results.
  • Due to the many sizing issues other customers have had, I ordered all the clothing items in a large. I normally wear a medium or small but since these were mostly sweaters and a pjs I ordered everything in a large.
  • Finally I apologize for the quality of my personal photos. I don’t have a cool camera yet but I did the best that I could with my flip phone (yes you read that right-I don’t really need a smartphone) and my Kindle Fire 7 so please bear with me.

Now let’s return to to shipping.

Upon viewing Romwe’s Shipping page it states the following under Processing:

Most items will ship out within 24-48 hours of ordering (weekends and holidays not included).
You will be informed if an item in your order is not available for immediate shipment. Therefore, the order may be separated into different shipments (for no extra charge), and items ordered together may not be shipped out on the same day.
My order was divided up into two packages, the first of which I received on March 12th-six days after I made my order! I checked the status of the second package that has the remaining items in it the next day after I received the pj’s and it and it showed that on March 8th it was processed and left the warehouse and on March 9th it was shipped. It arrived in the U.S. from China on March 11th. I received the second package on March 21st, 15 days later. (In addition Romwe’s customer support contacted-with no initiation from me- me to apologize for the shipping delay and gave me 200 points (Every 100 points can be used as one US dollar so this wasn’t a huge thing)).So that wasn’t a bad turnaround at all. Given what others have stated about shipping issues I was thinking I wouldn’t receive my items till next month. So that’s good.

What I bought:

Clothes:

Cat & Butterfly Print Pajama Set ($8.95). I paid $8.06 with the discount code I used.

Size range: S M L XL as I stated previously I sized up for all the clothing items I ordered. So I got a L.

Material: 95% Polyester and 5% Cotton.

Thoughts: The pajama looks exactly as it does in the picture and I’m glad I got a large. Both the shirt and pants fit well on me and it’s not a tight fit nor is it a loose fit, it’s a just right fit. The material’s not scratchy nor does it smell (there’s been complaints of items having a type of smell).

Expectation vs. Reality

Overall this is a keep for me (whether I like it or not I have to keep it Romwe’s return policy (which I encourage you to read over) does not allow for the return of sleepwear). This pj also came in a light yellowish color and there are other pjs that are around the same price.

Up next are the four cat themed sweaters:
(White)Cat Print Sweatshirt ($4.95) I paid $4.46 with the discount code I used.
Size: S M L XL as I stated previously I sized up for all the clothing items I ordered. So I got a L.
Material: 97% Polyester, 3% Spandex
Cat Print Sweatshirt ($8.95) I paid $8.06 with the discount code I used.
Size: S M L XL as I stated previously I sized up for all the clothing items I ordered. So I got a L.
Material: 97% Polyester, 3% Spandex
Expectation
Reality
1Plus1 Girls Cat Print Pullover ($7.95) I paid $7.16 with the discount code I used.
Size: S M L as I stated previously I sized up for all the clothing items I ordered. So I got a L.
Material: 95% Polyester, 5% Spandex
(See You)Letter And Cat Print Sweatshirt ($8.95) I paid $8.06 with the discount code I used.
Size Range: S M L XL  I stated previously I sized up for all the clothing items I ordered. So I got a L.
Material: 97% Polyester, 3% Spandex

Thoughts: I wore these sweaters each day to work (see pictures below). I’m glad I did for it was a bit breezy, chilly and rainy throughout the week (I live in Florida btw). Each one has a different feel to it and the material off each sweater varies. I like them all but my favorites are the 1Plus1 Girls Cat Print Pullover ($7.95) and the Cat Print Sweatshirt ($8.95) Out of the four the (White)Cat Print Sweatshirt ($4.95) was the thickest while the (See You)Letter And Cat Print Sweatshirt ($8.95) was the thinnest (it also didn’t have any pockets). Overall I’m satisfied with my sweaters. You can wear them with or without a tee underneath and you’ll still be comfortable.

For my final clothing item purchase I present you with these cute Cat Pattern Invisible Socks 5Pairs ($3.95).

Expectation vs. Reality

Size: One size

Material: 64% Cotton, 36% Polyester

Thoughts: With the discount, I paid $3.56 and wasn’t disappointed. These socks look exactly as they’re featured in the picture and not only are they cute, but they’re also comfortable.  There were other options for cat socks so it was hard to choose but these were the ones I ended up purchasing.

That ends the clothing portion of this haul review. Now it’s time for the accessories!

First up is the Cat Pattern Floor Mat (13.95) 

With the discount code I paid $12.56. Out of everything that I bought, this was my favorite. First off I was a little skeptical about it, but when it arrived all of that disappeared. It’s exactly as it looks in the site’s picture and it’s a little bigger than I thought it would be.

Reality vs. Expectation

 

This Cat Print Makeup Bag ($1.95) I is cute but yet it was the biggest disappointment.  It’s smaller than how it’s presented in the site’s picture. You can only hold a few-and I mean a few-lipsticks and maybe one compact mirror. It won’t be able to hold anything else. I did pay $1.76 and that’s a good price for this cute tinier than thou makeup bag.

Expectation vs. Reality

 

I haven’t attempted to place this Cat Decora Hook 1pc ($2.95) on my wall…I’ll wait till I move into a new place. For now I’ll say that the item looks exactly like the picture. It’s large and adorable and I look forward to placing it in a nice spot in my new home. With the discount I paid $2.66.
Expectation vs. Reality
Moving onto the Cat Overlay Print Cushion Cover ($2.95)  I love it. And I only paid $2.66 I have no regrets!
Expectation vs. Reality

All that leaves us with are the Gold Hollow Out Cute Cat Pattern Dangle Earrings ($1.95) and the Butterfly & Cat Tattoo Sticker Set 5pcs ($1.95) which I paid $1.76 each for thanks to the discount. Both look exactly as they do in their pictures. I haven’t used the tattoos yet, but plan on doing so soon. I’m not sure if the earrings have real gold but I do like them. They were light as a feather on my ears and they’re just simple and stylish.

Expectation vs. Reality

Final Thoughts:

Overall I’m quite pleased with my first haul from Romwe. Would I purchase from the site again? I’m planning on ordering a few more items later this month and that will be it for a while. And I’ll post a review of my haul for you. If you do order from this site, make sure to do the following:

  1. Read the reviews for the items
  2. Be aware of the shipping and return policies.
  3. Keep in mind that Romwe has a similar site called Shein which sells similar clothes for higher prices.
  4. Check out these Romwe hauls from the following YouTubers which inspired me to give Romwe a try:

That’s it for now! Have a great week.